Thursday, April 10, 2025

[Bio] Stockholm City

I wish I could tell you how I exactly felt when I first arrived in Stockholm. It’s kinda funny now to remember how even the air that I breathed back then felt different. Immediately after getting out of the airport, I touched the snow. I don’t remember being cold despite it being around -2 degrees C when I arrived and me not having a proper winter outfit apparently. But then again, I was so giddy with excitement. I am in Sweden, where there is Right To Roam (Allemansrätten) after all. The public has the right to access nature and do activities in the wild as long as one does not destroy, nor disturb.

Insert COVID face, lol

I don’t think that I have been an outdoorsy person all my life. That only changed when I began university since I was sort of ‘forced’ to go out there and do some fieldwork. It also didn’t help that I have an irrational fear of massive landmasses that started during primary school. I feel overwhelmed by the grandeur of tall mountains that my heart starts to race. And yes I still feel this way even after living in Bergen, Norway, a city surrounded by seven mountains and climbing multiple peaks. BUT, I also try to challenge myself and face my fears. We only get overwhelmed anyways when we look and think about the bulk of the job or an activity. We often forget to take it slow and do leg after leg. One can definitely conquer a mountain not by scaling it but by going to the base and starting hiking.

field snap from Palawan, Philippines

Also, view on top of mountains are very nice anyways

Stockholm is flat tho, lol. There wasn’t much hiking there but there are multiple nature reserves one can visit. I’ve been to several with my friends, having picnics or just plain exploring when the sun was out. A sunny day is a commodity in Scandinavia. One MUST go out when the sun’s out even during winter. Everyone seems to be in good spirits as well. Typically, locals won’t really greet you as they keep themselves to themselves but that would change when it is sunny. That’s the time to greet and smile at people. It was also kinda funny to see them jogging inside cemeteries. That was a culture shock for me. You don’t see that back home where cemeteries always feel scary and sacred. 

walking on top of a frozen lake is a okay too

my friend, Tin, watching the world burn during Valborgsmässoafton

Valborg outtake





During Nationalsdag in Stockholm 2022 with friends, Liza, Sollen and Rica


Tyresta National Park



living the chartreuse life at the grounds of Bergianska Trädgården

Wine in public with a rad friend at Ivar Los Park

picnic with Claire, typical around June in Sweden

Täby attempt at swimming, August 2022

Nackareservatet picnic with friends



Hagaparken picnic 
(I shelled out moneeey to buy the picnic blanket 
because of how often we did this back then)

Exploring Haga Slott ruins


Skinnarviksberget top (what a weird photo)

I made this mistake one time of being out so late at Skogskyrkogården. It was August of 2021 and I wanted to see where Greta Garbo was laid to rest and also tick off another UNESCO World Heritage Site on my list. It was still bright at around 21 since I was able to take some okayish photos but it got dark real quick, lol. I was already panicking because the cemetery felt empty. Don’t get me wrong; I wasn’t scared of being murdered there or anything. In comparison to the Philippines, I felt so safe in Sweden even when people tried to tell me to be careful. I was more scared of phantoms or ghosts jumping in front of me. I was walking amongst graves after all. So, while I was navigating the maze-like paths there, a jogger just casually dashed next to me. Then I saw an elderly couple walking with their dogs. I laughed inside and scolded myself because I was being pathetic. 



me at the cemetery grounds feeling deep

sorry for the poor quality. i poor


Stockholm City itself felt so picturesque. I had a hard time thinking about how to describe it. It feels so modern but at the same time offers a robust sense of being historic. When I told people back then that I liked T-Centralen so much, they usually laughed at me and figured that I must be crazy. They said that it is always too busy. Like, what do they expect? It is a bustling city that offers a lot for locals and travellers alike. A thriving capital is something to be proud of. It means that the country is doing something good and there is no other way but to be grateful for opportunities and the whole lot of people around you. There were tons of places to see, eat and sit. I was never bored and it feels like there is always something that you can do. Everything is almost always accessible. You can either walk, take one of the city bikes or e-scooters when weather permits or take either the bus, the tram or the metro (and you can use your ticket to any public transpo within your city!). 

scooteeeer! Fave


flea market in front of Hötorget 

another low quali vid from me but look at Stockholm


Gamla Stan is a favorite and I spend most of my days there. I kid you not that there were times wherein I was there in the morning, in the afternoon and then I came back in the evening again. There was just too much to see and do for a history nut like me. In 2022, museums that are run by the State were mostly free so I was always rotating where I could hangout. Of course, I paid for some like the very touristy Royal Palace and private-run museums such as the Fotografiska Museum. I just remembered how I wasn’t so bitter about the museum's entrance fee, unlike when I was living in Norway. 

400-yr old buildings behind me at Stortorget 



January 2022, when I first arrived in SE


in all politeness, who buys these?



Apparently, the city is spread amongst 14 islands connected by bridges but I didn’t even notice that when I was living there. I was probably not that dumb (or I don’t know, maybe?), more so that it wasn’t really noticeable since every island is connected to one another ever so smoothly. Well-oiled, engineered and planned come to mind. Writing this, I remember how I would lie down on the grass in Djurgården. The sun was on my face and the wind was blowing ever so slightly. Life was good and for a while, everything was perfect. No problems and I could confidently say that I was happy. That was Stockholm for me, I guess. A happy place for myself because of how impermanent but structured it was. It was some sort of playground where my imagination was in full spin: possibilities were seemingly endless and potentials were achievable. The world opened up for me. 

Djurgården blues



Wednesday, April 9, 2025

[Bio] When You Stop Resisting

It is quite funny to look back on my photos prior to coming to Europe in 2022. Before this big change in my life, I hadn't even left the country; not even for a small vacation in South East Asia! 


All of a sudden, I was in Qatar. Life, for real?

No seatmate in my Qatar to Stockholm flight. I had to take a selfie.
Also changed clothes because it's gonna be cold!

I was told that I was quite lucky because it snowed prior to my arrival.
As if Sweden knew that I would be thrilled for snow.


Visa applications, choosing the best layover country for a longhaul flight and even the most basic skill of itinerary-making are all foreign to me. Who would have thought! I am quite sure that sixteen-year old me wouldn’t even believe half the stories I would be telling her. She was dreaming of all these European cities she read from books (borrowed from the library or bought from Booksale), thinking with a fluttering heart that there might be at least a sliver of chance to see them during her twilight years. But even then, she felt a bit arrogant to dream about that. ‘How can I afford that?’, was a resounding question in her mind. How dare she dream when even a university degree that usually leads to a good job wasn’t even guaranteed.

Aachen Cathedral, Germany, WTF???

Hofburg Palace, Vienna, Austria, WTF??



Prado Museum, WTF?

my ass in Gdansk, Poland

flexing in Trolltunga, Ullensvang, Norway

Tallinn Old Town, Estonia

Amsterdam, LOL

Praha, Czechia

[Among others...]

But, life IS truly unpredictable especially when you don’t really have a lot to lose. My mindset has always been to gamble what little I have; always thinking that I will be okay no matter what. There was also that matter of the heart. One seems to be fearless when love is involved. I used to think that the saying, ‘Love can move mountains,’ was an overstatement. It actually wasn’t. We can truly do amazing and surprising things when backed by this feeling.


I was quite lucky to be chosen by this Swedish family to be their au pair for a year in Stockholm. It wasn’t really the plan, believe me. Prior to looking for a host family in Europe,  I’ve tried applying for an Erasmus Mundus scholarship but it didn’t work out. I would just like to add that I got the program acceptance and some promise of financial support from the institute but that’s it. Given that I don’t have the means for the show money for the student visa application, that option was truly not for me. That was actually a painful blow and I remember how I cried and cried thinking that there was no way for me to go to Europe because I was so freaking poor. To calm myself, I just tried to internalize that the Erasmus program wasn’t really for me. That there is another MSc I can do later on in life: something that I actually would like to do other than a forced program just to get somewhere. I already did that with my Bachelor’s. I reminded myself that I should do better with the next program that I would take.


Then I remembered the au pair program. I have stumbled about it around 2016-2017 but I thought that only people without prospects do that. And I had prospects in 2017. I just got my license as a Geologist after passing the notoriously difficult and ‘sieve-like’ board exams and I was also a DMTG Scholar of a mining company. Life was promising back then. I thought I was all set for a nice career. Until it wasn’t. But that’s another story to tell.

Quarry site memories, lol

It was quite easy for me to get a host family. I began my research around April 2021, mere days after I got the result of my Erasmus application, and I matched with a Danish family not even two weeks after making my profile live at Aufini.com. We gathered all requirements between May and June 2021 (after the Easter holiday) and I appeared at VFS Makati on the 22nd of July 2021. The interview went smoothly but it was quite fast. Even the security guard was puzzled by it since most applicants usually have longer interviews. Mine probably lasted only three minutes.


I was quite confident. Unfortunately for me, I received a rejection letter on the 28th of July, just two days after my birthday. I was quite devastated and the reason given by SIRI, the Danish Ministry of Immigration didn’t make any sense. For the second time, my dream of going to Europe came to naught. I was truly losing hope. My Danish host family wanted us to appeal but they wanted me to pay for it. It was around Php8800 around that time. I hesitated but I was like, why not? Maybe the result could be overturned. While waiting for that, I activated my profile on Aupair.com and looked for other families in other countries. I was booking interviews but a friend I met through Facebook, another au pair hopeful, told me that she gave my contact to a Swedish host family that she also met through Aupair.com. Around that time, she was already processing her paper to Sweden so she was okay recommending other hopefuls to other families she was speaking with.


Mariel, the one who recommended the Swedish family


Before we went to Sweden

The Swedish family was nice. We only talked a couple of times via messaging and an interview was scheduled 9th of August 2021. They began the interview by telling me that they would try to get back to me after a week because they have at least 50 hopefuls to look into. I said it was okay and of course, I could wait. I guess the interview went well because I received a message while I was sleeping that they wanted to call me again the following day. The Philippines is 6 hours ahead so we had a call again the 10th of August in the evening for me. The couple told me that after interviewing two more people after me, they were quite sure that I would be a perfect fit with their family because of how articulate I was. ‘Why prolong the search?’ the dad said. So, we started the processing of all documents on the 11th of August and got my approval on 25th of October 2021. Truly a whirlwind thing and the rest is history after that.

After immigration (and the not-so-strict Covid check), I stepped into Swedish soil.
God save the King!


I guess wherever I am right now was because I just let things be. There were a lot of struggles and a lot of unnecessary suffering because I focused too much on my fears and worries that I won’t ever reach my target, my destination. Often we forgot how discoveries were made by explorers a long time ago. They navigated uncharted territories because of unforeseen wind changes, storms that broke loose all of a sudden and sometimes even rogue waves hitting them. They let things be, because what can you even do whilst facing turbulent waters? At the end of the day, everything will pass. The day will break again and what you’re facing is the destination that you are meant to reach. Embrace it first and all the potentials will appear. We are here and that’s the most important thing.


You might be wondering what I did with my appeal with the Danish Ministry of Immigration. I rescinded that and I got my money back. Was my Danish host happy about that? I don’t know. She never really contacted me again. We both know anyways that the appeal can take between 6 to 12 months with no guarantee of an approval. I couldn’t really wait that long and neither could she.